A lot of the pictures you post aren’t that bad, honestly. Do you have any idea what it’s like to be 6'4 250 lbs? Most seats don’t fit me, and it’s incredibly uncomfortable to sit with your legs apart. Also, just be thankful you live somewhere with transportation. I don’t even have access to a bus system.
Genuinely trying to explain some things, you seem to be drawing malicious intent where there is none.
I appreciate where you’re coming from and I understand how being bigger affects how one can fit into a world sized for smaller people. I took a brief tour of past posts and I think I generally took care never to shame people who were sitting that way because of their size, but rather because they felt entitled to spread out.
I actually don’t think most men have malicious intent at all - like many things we do, it’s probably sort of unconscious. I know the title of my blog is a bit snarky - but behind the snark is the lived experience of a woman who has had to squeeze, contort, duck, and manuever around men who are spreading out…just because.
The lack of public transportation in many large cities is a really tremendous problem and I’m glad you called it out. I do feel very thankful to live in a city that provides such an incredible resource.





